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February 2, 2012 03:14:39
Posted By Faye
I have finished writing my BIG speech for March 14th 2012. I feel like a ton of weight is off my shoulders. Mellow! Now all I have to do is take the words and put them into my heart so they will flow naturally at the right time.  Since I have so many music performer-friends, this is not unlike a rehearsal for a big show. It is one thing to hear the music; it is another whole thing to make it yours, own it, sing it like you mean it and live it.  
I rewrote the speech and rethought it until I turned a bit blue. My topic, “Coping with odd and quirky behavior” is definitely my strength and I am good at it. However, putting what I do into words for others to learn from was quite the chore. It is a whole different ballgame to have something worth saying than just to talk. I have not done this speech in public. I plan to do it Feb 10th and again March 1st, and then March 14th is the big one.   
The speeches learning objectives are what I plan to use for years ahead. I want to perfect this speech until I can pass along some of the things I know. 
Participants of my speech will not only learn how to recognize quirky and odd behaviors, but also have a chance to talk about some of the people they have trouble with. They will have opportunity to think about that person, and develop strategies to adapt to odd behaviors. Listeners will learn that humor works with quirks. It just needs to be used at the right time and place; this can be a fine line.
Stay tuned into my blogs for more information on how to cope with odd and quirky behavior of others. I am really into this topic for now! 
 
 
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January 26, 2012 04:42:02
Posted By Faye
Dear Blog readers, I am so excited. Today something extraordinary happened to me. I must tell you. I was sitting with a friend in Culvers Restaurant. A stranger came to me. She had a piece of paper in her hand. She said, “I know you, my friend and I read your books and we are such fans. She is in the hospital now, and I know it would mean much to her if I could get your autograph and give it to her in the hospital.” 
Sometimes I get to feel so overwhelmed by it all, life. Then this one thing happens, and I think to myself, I do make a difference out there, and I already have and will continue to do so. It is my goal to make a positive, happy difference. To widen comfort zones, expand tolerance levels, and bring about self-awareness of how we can treat each other better as humans. 
On a day like this, I really needed that little boost and it makes all the difference. I am grateful and look forward. 
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January 23, 2012 05:48:06
Posted By Faye

I have been talking on blogs quite a bit lately.  I am going to keep this one short.  I figured out what my hang up is!  I am outside my comfort zone.  When I am outside my comfort zone, I get anxious and apprehensive. 

 

Now, all I need to do is grow into the zone where my anxiety is, and I will be able to manage this all.  I have an anxious nature.  If you read Nutterville, and Prisoner, you will understand why.  It is no big secret that my whole life revolves around pushing open the door  in my head, heart and being.  Enlarging my own comfort zone! 

 

I started working on this comfort zone issue very deliberatly when I was a late teen. I found I had a gay person in my life, and a mentally ill person in my life and they were both siblings.  For what ever reason, both of them felt fine to confide in me and have it as a secret from the rest of the family.  I had to learn very early how to cope and push that comfort zone out and learn great toleration. 

 

I think those two people set me apart from the herd early, and one swore me to secrecy.  I am not a secret person. 

 

Now I fight with a whole different comfort zone.  Public speaking and all the business end of that.  I am way out of my depth!  but, i am determined to grow into this and do my darndest. 

 

so, here is to stretching that comfort zone.  painful as it is, none of us can survive with out doing it on some level each day.  and adjusting

 

becoming self aware is the first step.  the other is to persist!  Forward!!! 

 

 

 

 
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January 22, 2012 08:06:25
Posted By Faye
Promoting me takes words and concepts that are crystallized. I need to have tight ideas that I can ‘sell’ in a matter of seconds. As of now, I am so out of my depth that I can’t even come up with a name for my web site, what I want to be called, or my brand!  I can’t bring myself to really focus on it. The idea slips away before I can capture it. I MUST capture it, and it must be good. that is not an option. I have spent the money. I need to do this for myself. 
Writing a speech or giving a speech is nothing compared to the amount of work it takes to promote me. This has caused tears of agony, much trepidation and soul searching on my part, and I am no closer to it than what I was months ago. 
I even have difficulty with the concept of platform. I thought I had that. I sent it to my web woman in Alabama, and she says it needs more work. I had this for one of my platforms. ONE of my speech topics is, “Coping with odd or quirky behaviors” the 6 things I ‘sell’ in this speech are: 1. Identify peculiar behaviors 2. Stretch comfort zone 3. Practice words 4. Doctors diagnose: We cope 5. Humor works with quirks 6. Unmet needs create quirks
Does that sound like a speech your organization, agency would like to hear? Does that sound ‘worth’ money to hear? 
My audience that read my blogs is kind to me. I know them, they know me. We are family. But ultimately what I want is to sell myself to businesses and make that difference in the world. I believe my speeches have value. The business end of this kills me.
Does anyone have suggestions, advice or able to help me with crystallizing my thought process?   
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January 19, 2012 10:38:10
Posted By Faye
Yikes! I am all antsy and frilly inside me tonight and cannot sleep. You know when I can’t sleep I get up and type to you. I live out loud and probably will continue to do that until the time is right to not do that anymore. It‘s about -7 degrees outside, the house is quite cold and I am sitting here in my night gown, shivering. I was at National Speakers Meeting today and I made the goal inside myself to really work toward giving 20 speeches before Jan 1, 2013. That is quite a leap for me. I should add… paid speeches. 
I am working on a speech where I become my sister Gail when she was a bag lady living on the streets of big cities. I really want to make my audience minorly uncomfortable about homelessness. I want to talk about the topic of odd and quirky people among us in such a way that they can feel it and experience it, because most people pretend that the homeless and really odd people are not in our midst. It is my personal goal to try to stretch people’s toleration, awareness, and stretch their comfort zone. This is NOT an easy task I have decided to talk on. 
It is not our job to diagnose them, or to try to figure out why they are the way they are. I believe it is our job to find a way to give growth to our awareness and realize that we can find common ground with a street person. We can talk to them, and know they are pretty much exactly like ‘us’ … even if they look unkempt and act strange.
I have also taken it as my personal challenge to try to talk to management about ways to keep people with odd and quirky behavior at the workplace, so they do not have to become homeless. 
I am a public speaker. I want to become known as: ‘Faye Speaks’.    I hope you continue to read my blogs and take this journey with me. I need your help for me reach my goal of giving 20 speeches. I don’t want to go on this journey alone. 
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